Well it’s happen; my worst nightmare has come true! My  teenage daughter got suspended from school today!  To be honest I am actually shocked it didn’t happen sooner!  She stabbed a boy in the hand with a pencil in art class. Apparently the boy was picking on her and she had enough.  As a mom that has watched this year after year with her, I can’t say I blame her!  There are always a handful of boys that love to get her started.  At first it wasn’t a big deal but after a while it started becoming an issue. She would tell the teachers but all they could say was” Ignore it”.  As a parent that was not good enough for me.  Let’s face it you can only ignore things for so long. Everyone has a breaking point.  We have voiced our concerns over and over to the school and nothing ever gets done. So we have started dealing with it our self by going straight to the child’s parents. Yes you read right…WE GO TO THE PARENTS HOUSE! Trust me, the parents are really shocked that we knocked on their door to inform them that their child has been bothering my daughter at school, AND the look on the child’s face is oh so priceless!   I am sorry, but no child of mine is going to be picked on at school.  If the school can’t handle it you best believe this child’s parent is going to!   So far that approach has worked very well.

Today however this was not the case of someone who regularly bothers her.  Apparently it was more of a back and forth onetime thing.  The boy said something very hurtful and plan out mean. To make matters worse it is a very sensitive topic for her, so Jas stabbed his hand.  He didn’t make a big deal out of. I guess he knew he was also in the wrong for saying what he said.  However another little girl in class felt the need to tell on my daughter.  Of course she only saw what Jasmine had done! How convenient.. so the principal called the little boy in the office and “saw” his hand. The little boy didn’t want  Jasmine to get in trouble so he tried to downplay it. However, when Jas was called to the office she openly admitted what happened and told her reason.   So of course they called the little boy in and that is when he lied about his part of the whole thing!  I mean really!? You are going to say you have no idea why she stabbed you in your hand!?  As a principal you honestly think that my child, who by the way never in her whole 8 years in school has ever touched another student , did this for NO REASON!! HELLO!! Let’s be honest why would this boy admit what he did, especially if he didn’t even tell on her in the first place!

But whatever rules are rules..I get that but now my child is suspended for the rest of the day, the whole day tomorrow and then she has ISS Friday!?  But the boy gets nothing!?  Why do we keep seeing this more and more in school!? Why is it always the child that gets bullied  or picked on get in trouble when they finally have enough!   Why can’t the schools do what they say and have a no “bully zone”.  Why do they always wait till it’s too late?  Not only that, how in the hell did the teacher not see this or even have a clue what was going on in her classroom!! When she was asked about it she HAD NO IDEA!!  As a parent I don’t understand!!

Yes my daughter knows better, she should have never ever touched this child. She could have handled this in another way!  Trust me I am not and will not give her a pass on this.  However it’s time for kids to understand that you can’t just pick on someone and think it’s all right! This could have been way worse.  We see it every day where a child that is bullied either hurts themselves or come back the next day and hurt others!  Enough is enough!

Parents it’s time for you to also take time out of you’re so called busy life and talk to your damn kids!  Don’t be that parent that say’s “MY CHILD WOULD NEVER BULLY SOMEONE” and feel like you don’t have to talk to them about it!  I have learned that 8 times out of 10 that’s the ones that are actually doing the damn bullying!! I am so glad that this is our last year in this school district! I would change her right now if it wasn’t just 2 weeks left of school!  I pray that we can get through these last 2 weeks drama and trouble free!

So my question is….Do you talk to your child about bullying and being bullied? Some kids don’t share that they are being bullied.  I admit I had to pull it out of my daughter when I started noticing the signs.  So parents please don’t overlook this and don’t think it won’t or can’t happen to your child!! HAVE THAT TALK REGULARLY! Kids today are a whole different breed then we were growing up….