Is your friendships healthy or Toxic?

Here Lately I have been looking over the group of people I “run” with.  I admit after carefully evaluating my current friendships, I must say I have a few that It’s getting cut off.  We all know that ANYTHING Toxic is not good for us and that can include Family and friends.   I am at a point in my life where I am getting older and wiser. I see things totally different than I seen it before.  What I used to brush off, well I can’t do that it anymore.  I will be honest I guess you can say my Patience have wore thin.

Toxic friendships wreak havoc on your sense of well being and peace. A toxic friend can be described in many ways: that “friend” who is always negative, always critical, the one who after you spent any amount of time with leaves you feeling drained.  They thrive on drama but are the main ones saying “they hate drama”.  When you have problems—which they claim to want to hear about, it always magically ends up being about Their BIGGER problems.

I found this while browsing the web tonight which was a big eye opener..So my question is Do you have toxic friends that you would be better off letting go?

7 Types of Toxic Friends

1. The Manipulator is often stealthy. We don’t tend to see it right away until smack it happens again. They have countless tactics too many to mention, the best way to recognize them is when you feel yourself coerced into responding in away that just doesn’t feel right.

2. The Judger just can’t help but judge and criticize us. “You would look great with an age appropriate hairstyle don’t you think?” “I love your home, there so much potential here I know exactly how I would decorate it.” These guys can find fault in anything you do. It’s as though you just can’t do anything right. When it’s done in a joking tone it may be a bit harder to identify.

3. The Competitor will compete with you even when you’re not competing. If you decide to run a 5k they can’t wait to tell you about how they signed up for a marathon. When you mention you’re your weekend getaway they tell you about their plan for a two week vacation in Tahiti in their beautiful over-water bungalow with panoramic views and fresh exotic fruits.

4. The Opportunist is “take, take, take.” There is no reciprocity in this relationship. They tend to call you when they need or want something. They’ll go to your party if there isn’t a “better” event happening that night. It’s all about what’s in it for them.

5. The Energy Vampire is self-absorbed and zaps our energy as they go on-and-on endlessly about themselves. When you leave them you feel exhausted.

6.The Gossiper is more malicious than the average person who periodically finds them self in a bit of gossip. Gossip appears to be the only thing they are interested in and they enjoy exaggeration and little lies to liven up the drama. This can be a disastrous recipe. The Gossiper can destroy relationships, and even compromise your job and reputation. Stay clear of this one because remember, one who always gossips to you about others will gossip to others about you and you won’t know what exaggerations or lies are being added.

7.  Negative Nelly is a downer, all is wrong in their world. They are pessimistic and resistant. They only want to hear what’s wrong in your life and they tend to get bored or change the subject when you mention your successes or happiness.

My Older sister  is always is telling me to surround myself with positive energy; and that I will be much happier. I guess I can now say I understand why her circle is small and why she is always happy!  I am letting go of all negative in  my life Starting now.. So if for some reason your one of those people you now know why.  If your one that I tend to keep THANK YOU FOR BEING A GREAT POSTIVE PERSON IN MY LIFE!!

(((HUGS))